By Warefa Pereke.
May 10, 2025.
In many societies, there exists a deep-seated misconception that women are solely responsible for determining the sex of their children. This myth has led to untold suffering for countless women, who face abuse, neglect, and shame for giving birth to girls. The reality is starkly different: the sex of a child is determined by the chromosomes contributed by both parents, with the father’s contribution playing the decisive role.
To understand why blaming women for the sex of their children is both scientifically inaccurate and morally reprehensible, it’s essential to grasp the basics of sex determination. In humans, sex is determined by two chromosomes: X and Y. Females have two X chromosomes (XX), while males have one X and one Y chromosome (XY). When a child is conceived, the mother contributes an X chromosome, while the father contributes either an X or Y chromosome. If the father contributes an X chromosome, the child will be a girl (XX); if he contributes a Y chromosome, the child will be a boy (XY).
So, while both parents contribute to the determination of the baby’s sex, the father’s contribution ultimately determines whether the baby is a boy or girl.
Given the scientific facts, it’s appalling that some men still believe women are responsible for the sex of their children. This misconception has led to horrific consequences, including physical and emotional abuse, abandonment, and social ostracism. Women who give birth to girls are often subjected to verbal and physical violence, with some men even resorting to public humiliation.
This behavior is not only unacceptable but also reflects a deeper societal issue. It underscores a lack of understanding and respect for women’s rights, dignity, and autonomy. Women are not mere vessels for producing male heirs; they are human beings deserving of love, respect, and compassion.
Men who blame and abuse their wives for giving birth to girls demonstrate a disturbing lack of empathy and understanding. Their actions are a manifestation of toxic masculinity, rooted in patriarchal norms that view women as inferior and subservient. Such attitudes are not only harmful to women but also corrosive to society as a whole.
It is essential to recognize that the sex of a child is a natural phenomenon beyond anyone’s control. Instead of blaming women, men should focus on building a loving and supportive relationship with their partners, regardless of the sex of their children.
To the women who have suffered abuse and shame for giving birth to girls, we offer our deepest support and solidarity. Your worth and dignity are not defined by the sex of your children. You are strong, resilient, and deserving of love and respect.
If you are experiencing abuse, know that you are not alone. There are resources available to help you, from support groups to counseling services. Don’t hesitate to reach out for help, and surround yourself with people who uplift and empower you.
To the men who still harbor misconceptions about sex determination, we urge you to educate yourselves and challenge your biases. Recognize the inherent worth and dignity of your partners, and work towards building a more equitable and loving relationship.
To society at large, we call for a shift in cultural attitudes. Let us promote a culture that values and respects women, regardless of the sex of their children. Let us work towards creating a world where women can live without fear of abuse and shame, where they can thrive and reach their full potential.
Together, we can create a more just and compassionate world, where every individual is valued and respected.
